Anxiety / Worry / Fear
Feeling any of these things?
These are designed to disempower you. They actually are an illusion. They aren't real, and they disempower you by making you believe they are real.
Anxiety, worry, and fear are all ideas that have no physical power over you until you give it power.
This is the transference of our true identity over to a source that does not exist. All we have to do is come back to center. Go back to the grounding thoughts that make you safe.
For me, I say "I am a daughter of God. God has never forsaken me. God tells me that even the birds of the air don't worry about where their next meal is coming from and that he will always provide."
So I hold that very close to my heart, and I carry it with me.
When I start to go into anxiety, worry or fear all because I see a number in a bank account that I don't like, or I see a number on a scale I don't like, or someone isn't nice to me, or I made a mistake and feel like I failed, when I feel this way, is when I take a deep breath in, and remind myself that I am from INFINITE source, that Source would never make itself suffer.
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Every thought we think and every word we speak IS already an affirmation.
It's as simple as what we think is what we get, what you believe will show up in your life.
I'm challenging you to be present with your thoughts today and be consciously aware of what you are thinking about yourself, about others, and about the world today.
I'm challenging you to think nicer, kinder, gentler thoughts that make your life feel better.
I'm also challenging myself to do these things as I have my own limitations and beliefs that still persist and seem to drag me down out of nowhere sometimes.
The struggle is real but it doesn't have to be real for YOU, or for me.
When we change our limitations, we change our lives.
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I ran into an ex boss of mine today (who was actually not a leader in any shape or form), and it did not sit well with me.
It reminded me of why I do what I do - this whole "entrepreneur" thing.
It reminded me that I have come SO far.
It reminded me that I will never again be miserable in a 9 to 5 job, with invisible chains to a desk.
It reminded me of my why - which was why I formed Boss Lady Generation in 2015...
Because I was tired of so-called "bosses" (particularly women) putting down each other, stepping over each other, manipulating, lying, abusing, and "competing" just for some sh!tty a$$ day job where you could only HOPE to one day have a coveted corner office - and maybe even a nicely decorated corner cubicle overlooking the beautiful day outside that you're missing out on.
I was tired of seeing women mistreat each other. Especially after a lifetime of seeing men mistreat women. Now we're gonna go and do the same to one another? I think not.
So that's ultimately why I formed Boss Lady Generation. I was tired of this B.S. inauthentic reality I was experiencing and I wanted to redefine what being a "boss" (and a lady) actually means.
Of course, running your own business isn't meant for everyone. Some people thrive working in a day job.
I Know What It's Like to Hate Your Day Job... MORE Than Anything
I know what it's like to dread the daily grind of it all. The drive. The required "lunch" breaks. The pretending to care about someone else's company while getting paid JUST ENOUGH to keep my head above water - (most of the time anyway).
And I know what it's like to daydream, scheme and plan your great escape while living the 9 to 5 life.
I used to write letters to my future self - encouraging words to keep going, keep pushing, keep breathing so that I could just survive the necessary torture in those moments.
I have been it all and done it all, had many bridge jobs, side gigs, and fillers... all while working my real passion and dream of running my own successful business.
I also know what it's like to work with women who are not supportive of other women, who compete, lie, cheat, steal, take advantage of others, and walk all over each other to get to their idea of "the top".
And Here's What I Learned...
Competition isn't my thing. The only person I am in competition with is myself.
One-upping isn't my thing. I love seeing others accomplish new feats.
Intimidation isn't my thing. My questions don't mean I doubt you.
Justification isn't my thing. I don't owe them any explanations.
I Also Learned This
Just because I'm intelligent, motivated, beautiful, and talented DOES NOT mean I will dumb myself down to make someone else feel better about their own insecurities.
I used to try to make others happy.
I used to try to be understood.
I used to try to make others know that I was there for them.
But it only caused more confusion, more pain, more damage - to me.
I self-sacrificed just to please others and make sure they were comfortable.
But those who choose to be unhappy will remain unhappy no matter what I do or do not do. #lessonlearned
Most Importantly, I Learned What My Thing Is
Challenging the Status Quo.
Going Beyond Our Mind's Limits.
Random Acts of Kindness.
Ultimately, the Most Important Thing is Love
Am I perfect? Hell to the no.
But I sure do keep getting up after I stumble!
And I will always keep improving, always keep growing, and always strive to keep demonstrating love!
I was unhappy for a long time because I knew I didn't belong in a 9 to 5 job. I may have excelled at almost any of it - especially when it comes to technology, but that doesn't mean I belonged there.
And maybe you don't either.
There aren't many people I know who actually get to do what they love working for someone else's dream.
It is absolutely possible and probable to be completely content working for someone, but it was always a punishment for me.
I've had the WORST bosses. Seriously.
(And a couple of REALLY GREAT ones too!)
And most of the baddies were women, which I find really sad - because, if anything, women should be unified, supportive, and empowering one another - not bickering, sabotaging each other, doing under-handed things, and being Basic B's.
Many of my bosses have been mentally and emotionally abusive to me.
My vulnerability is that I give too much. I share too much. I love too much. And I am very, very talented.
It makes for an easy target, along with a LOT of jealous people.
I always improve processes. I always challenge "the way things are", and I always look for new efficiencies.
But, let me regroup here and recognize the women who outshined, led by example, who listened, who were patient, who demonstrated true leadership, who let me have a voice, who empowered me, who trusted me, who gave me a motherfreaking chance. THANK YOU to you brave, strong, fierce, gentle women who actually gave a shit. You know who you are! #grateful
And to the ones who demeaned, who belittled, who threatened, who used me... you also know who you are, and I hope and pray that you don't ever feel the way that I felt due to your so-called leadership. I hope you don't drive home with tears streaming down your face, feeling utterly alone, feeling worthless, feeling that you can't do anything right, feeling like you don't even deserve to live.
Let's rise the fuck up and be women who support the hell out of each other instead of tearing each other down.
Can we do that, please?
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